Life can throw unexpected challenges our way, and for former England captain Steph Houghton and her husband, Stephen Darby, this has been a profound journey.
Darby, who is battling motor neurone disease (MND), has recently undergone a significant procedure that Houghton describes as “life-changing.”
A Difficult Diagnosis
Stephen, just 36 years old, had a promising football career, starting at Liverpool’s academy and playing for several clubs, including Swindon Town and Bradford City.
However, everything changed in September 2018 when he was diagnosed with MND, just three months after marrying Houghton.
For the last six years, they have faced the realities of this rare condition, which affects the brain and nerves, but unfortunately, Darby’s health has deteriorated in recent months.
Adjusting to New Norms
In a heartfelt conversation with The Guardian, Houghton shared how her husband has recently been fitted with a feeding tube due to the progression of his condition.
This procedure, known as percutaneous endoscopic gastrostomy, is essential for ensuring he receives the necessary nutrients to maintain his strength.
Houghton emphasized the importance of Darby living as normal a life as possible, stating, “You want Stephen to be living a normal life as much as possible, to be able to eat as much food as he can.”
The decision to implement this feeding tube came as food intake became increasingly risky for Darby.
Houghton reflected on the emotional toll of such decisions: “It hasn’t been a great few months because these decisions are life-changing, and it takes a lot of time to get used to. But ultimately, it’s the best thing for him.”
Understanding MND
Motor neurone disease is a rare and progressive condition that weakens the body’s muscles over time.
While there is currently no cure, treatments can help manage symptoms and improve quality of life.
Unfortunately, MND can significantly shorten life expectancy and can lead to severe consequences.
The Reality of Their Journey
Houghton candidly shared their experience of adapting to the challenges posed by MND.
“There are good and bad days,” she noted, “but I think we’ve adapted really well over the last six years.
It’s obviously a tough ride, but I want to be honest about the actual process and spread awareness of the disease.”
Her commitment to raising awareness is rooted in a desire to support others facing similar battles.
Reflecting on the early days after the diagnosis, Houghton admitted it was hard to accept: “You don’t want to believe it because you’re like: ‘Why us? We’re only young and Stephen should still be playing football. It’s not fair.’”
However, she recognized the importance of maintaining a positive outlook.
Raising Awareness and Inspiring Others
Despite his struggles, Darby has remained an advocate for MND awareness.
He raised an impressive £130,000 through a charity march alongside fellow former footballer Marcus Stewart.
Houghton shared that Darby encouraged her to continue her football career, which she eventually wrapped up at the end of the last season.
Now, Houghton is focusing on her role as an ambassador for Manchester City and exploring coaching, punditry, and even podcasting alongside Ian Wright.
Navigating Guilt and Support
Balancing her commitments with the care Darby needs has not been easy for Houghton.
She expressed feelings of guilt when she has to leave him for work, saying, “When I’m going to games or having to stay overnight, I feel a little guilty because I’m not with Stephen.”
The emotional weight of this situation can be overwhelming, especially with the constant worry about his health.
Despite the challenges, Houghton appreciates the strong support network they have built, which has been crucial during this difficult period.
“Our families have been absolutely unreal,” she acknowledged, “and that allows me to do what I need to do while ensuring Stephen receives the best possible care.”
As they continue to navigate this journey, Houghton and Darby are finding ways to cope and adapt, demonstrating resilience in the face of adversity.
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