Jana dated a guy who liked all of her ‘sexy’ friends’ Instagram thirst traps.
She felt resentful and jealous because he was so openly acting inappropriately.
Men are now creating fictitious profiles (finstas) to secretly perv.Jana claims that this is actually a superior choice.
I was dating a man earlier this year who is renowned for having a wandering eye. As usual, his reputation was a red flag, and I should have stayed away from him right away.
However, my fiancée like a challenge, so I allowed my heart and loins to run wild.
I kept convincing myself that it was okay since I barely even like him.
It’s just an enjoyable diversion.
That is, until I noticed he kept liking the Instagram photos of my various girlfriends.
My gorgeous girlfriends, not just any girlfriends.
Their thirst traps, not just any pictures.
You can be certain that he enjoyed it if there was a bikini shot.
It was all of them, not just one or two.
And it was making me crazy.
I was attempting to be the “cool girl” who doesn’t care, which was annoying.
Even though I remained silent, the dagger in my heart appeared to keep cutting a little bit deeper with time.
When Sarah posted a bikini photo, “ol mate” would instantly like it.
I could feel my animosity growing, and I genuinely disliked the person I was turning out to be.
I started to develop the paranoia that he might try it on with one (or more) of them.
Every time they posted a beautiful image, I found myself getting irritated, which is really unjust.
My ladies should be let to flaunt until they are unable to do so any longer.
To be completely honest, I know I have a tendency to get envious and have been known to prefer pandemonium than a good conversation.
But eventually his behaviour went too far, and it’s safe to say I lost my cool.
My girlfriends and I stumbled into him and his friends on a night out, and that’s how it all started.
We drank a couple cocktails earlier, so we were all in good shape.
One of my pals is this obscenely beautiful, extroverted lady who will talk to anyone, and we adore her for it.
As a result, she welcomed my boyfriend of the moment when we ran into him, and we all had a nice time.
He and I reconnected a week later for a nice date night.
He casually remarked, “Oh, I messaged your friend on Instagram the other night,” as we began to talk.
Huh?Yes, she appeared to be really inebriated during your girls’ night out, so he remarked, “I wanted to see how she pulled up the next day.”
I’ll say it once more: huh?Why? I said.
She was obviously taken care of when we were with her.
I experienced this chill.
Because we girls are aware that there is frequently a reason when a guy slides into our DMs and inquires about how our night went.
I needed a moment to comprehend this information, so I excused myself to use the loo.
I opened my Instagram while I was in the toilet and went to her page.
Sure enough, he had begun to follow her and had loved each and every photo that she had posted over the previous week.
The unpleasant part is that, while he wasn’t technically cheating on her, I believe it’s safe to say that he was acting thirsty in her direction.
As I already stated, I occasionally have a tendency to favour chaos over maturity.
So I went back outside, had a strong gin cocktail, and made up my mind to argue with him.
Lord, it was gloomy.
I became increasingly irritated by his continued denial, and I began to wonder whether I was behaving overly paranoid and acting out of proportion.
I felt drunk and bewildered the following day.
I decided to unpack it with my fabulously harsh French therapist, so I arranged an appointment with her right away.
She listened to me rant and then said, “No, I don’t think you’re being paranoid; I think you had a strong reaction to something that had clearly been bubbling under the surface for quite a while.”
She then offered me a kind, comforting grin.
In all the years she has worked as a therapist, she claimed that nothing more frequently leads to arguments between couples than social media.
Adding that she encounters women who are dealing with very identical problems to mine every day.
I explained that although he wasn’t legally cheating, my instincts told me that he was up to no good, which was what was most confusing my head.
Sure, she said, all guys have eyes, and they will all be drawn to other women because that’s just how men are.
However, there is a distinction between casually glancing at a woman and announcing openly that you are looking on a social media platform.
I felt relieved as I left her office.
Yes, it is rather suspicious that my boyfriend kept loving my pals’ thirst traps, but I wasn’t being overly suspicious.
Without a doubt, the relationship didn’t work out (surprise, surprise), and I’ve since learned to put greater faith in my gut feelings.
But just last week, I learned a new technique for males to indulge in cheeky perversion without offending their relationships.
Yes, it appears that guys are creating finstas (false Instagram accounts) in order to follow attractive women without their partners knowing.
I learned about it after noticing that several Instagram accounts that were obviously fraudulent were following me and I was baffled as to why.
I didn’t realise they were all bogus accounts until I dug deeper into them; plainly, the men who created them didn’t want their partners to know they were following other women.
Here is one of them as an illustration. As you can see, they don’t have a profile photo, have hardly any followers, and appear to follow only female users.
The ‘Oh, I don’t even follow her on Instagram’ conundrum is avoided thanks to this cunning technique, which nonetheless enables males to take a peek at gorgeous women.
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I don’t despise it.
At least this way, couples are spared the agony of witnessing their man lust for other women. and no lady with common sense will reply to a weird msg from an obviously bogus Instagram.
I therefore believe that it is not genuinely harmful.
Similar to how males watch porn when we’re not home (sorry, women… it’s real).
So I guess I don’t mind if they browse Instagram for gorgeous girls.
Simply refraining from doing so on their own genuine profiles to inadvertently make a message.
The main drama we ladies had to deal with back in the days of the cavemen, though, was figuring out how to prepare the wildebeest our man had brought back to the cave for dinner. not the stunner that our lover is currently smitten with.
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