It’s always a little jarring when a familiar dynamic suddenly shifts—especially when money enters the mix.
One family found themselves in exactly that situation when their longtime babysitter, someone who had become almost part of the household, decided it was time to ask for more.
The Babysitter’s Bold Request
This couple has been relying on the same babysitter for years—she’s practically family at this point.
She’s been there since their kids were in diapers, always reliable, always caring.
Because of how much they trust her, they’ve gone out of their way to pay her generously—double the going rate, in fact.
But recently, after returning home from a date night, the babysitter asked to speak privately.
She gently explained that with college on the horizon, she needed to start saving up for textbooks and supplies.
To make that happen, she was hoping to raise her hourly rate.
Torn Between Fairness and Finances
The dad didn’t say yes or no right away.
Instead, he told her he’d talk it over with his wife.
On the one hand, he truly admired her initiative—it’s not easy asking for more.
On the other hand, he couldn’t shake the feeling that they were already paying more than enough.
Plus, he knew she was working with other families too.
Money-wise, things were tight, and an increase just didn’t feel doable.
Still, he was conflicted. If they said no, would she feel offended? Would they lose the one babysitter they trust? But if they agreed, it would stretch their budget even further.
He was stuck—and unsure what to do next.
Jane’s Take: Is It Really About the Money?
Here’s what Jane had to say: When you find someone who takes care of your kids with heart, it’s easy to feel like they’re irreplaceable.
But it’s worth stepping back and asking—are you truly unable to afford a few more dollars per hour, or does the request just feel uncomfortable?
Maybe it feels like emotional pressure, especially since you’ve already been generous.
But take a moment to consider that she might be asking out of genuine need.
School isn’t cheap, and she might be raising her rate across the board—not just with you.
Yes, it’s okay for her to ask. And it’s okay for you to say no.
Weigh the Value, Not Just the Cost
Ultimately, it comes down to this: do you feel her care and experience are worth the increase? If so, and if you can manage it, then maybe it’s worth stretching your budget just a bit.
But if you simply can’t afford it, or don’t feel it’s justified, that’s okay too.
There are other wonderful sitters out there—Jane, a mother of four, is confident in that.
It might take a little effort, but you can find someone new who will love your kids just as much.
Don’t Let Guilt Cloud the Decision
Most importantly, Jane urges not to let emotions cloud this.
This isn’t about guilt, manipulation, or loyalty.
Your babysitter is trying to build a future, just like everyone else.
And you and your wife have the right to make the best decision for your family without feeling bad.
Whether you say yes or no, the relationship doesn’t have to be damaged.
If she stays, great. If she moves on, someone else will step in—and your kids will still be in good hands.
Final Thought: Make the Decision Together
Now it’s time to sit down with your wife and figure out what feels right—for your budget, for your family, and for your peace of mind.
Either way, don’t take it personally. This is just life, and sometimes life costs a little more than we expect.