Hilary Duff’s husband, Matthew Koma, has waded into the recent “Toxic Mom Group” controversy, taking aim at Ashley Tisdale in a sharp Instagram post.
The 38-year-old musician didn’t hold back, calling Tisdale “self-obsessed” and “tone-deaf” in a playful—but pointed—online jab.
The post comes amid speculation that Tisdale, 40, may have had a falling out with Duff over tensions in their shared mom group.
Koma went a step further, creating a mock magazine cover with a headline reading, “When You’re the Most Self-Obsessed Tone-Deaf Person on Earth, Other Moms Tend to Shift Focus to Their Actual Toddlers.”
He even photoshopped his own head onto Tisdale’s body in the iconic image of her sitting on a white couch in all black, adding a smaller tagline: “A Mom Group Tell-All Through a Father’s Eye.”
Ashley Tisdale Opens Up About Feeling Excluded
The drama stems from Tisdale’s recent essay, “Breaking Up With My Toxic Mom Group,” published in The Cut.
In it, she detailed her experience of feeling frozen out by friends during the vulnerable months after giving birth to her daughter Jupiter in 2021.
Tisdale had previously praised her “village of moms,” which reportedly included Hilary Duff, Mandy Moore, and Meghan Trainor.
She shared vacations, baby classes, and playdates with the group over four years.
But over time, she felt increasingly left out and unheard, a dynamic she described as reminiscent of her teenage years.
From Blog Posts to Public Statements
Before the essay, Tisdale had touched on her feelings in a November 2025 blog post on ByAshleyFrench.
She explained that she noticed invitations passing her by and events posted on Instagram without her, leaving her feeling isolated.
“It took me back to an unpleasant but familiar feeling I thought I’d left behind years ago,” she wrote.
“Here I was sitting alone one night after getting my daughter to bed thinking, ‘Maybe I’m not cool enough?’” Eventually, she texted the group, saying, “This is too high school for me and I don’t want to take part in it anymore.”
She clarified that she didn’t consider the moms “bad people,” but for her, the dynamic had stopped being healthy.
Fans quickly speculated about the identities of those involved after Tisdale unfollowed Duff and Moore on Instagram.
From Togetherness to Distance
Tisdale had once been a core part of the group.
In a now-deleted 2022 Instagram post from a girls’ trip with Duff and Trainor, she gushed about the weekend, calling it “an amazing group of women to journey through this mom-hood together!”
Even in January 2025, she publicly acknowledged the group for helping her through challenges like the Los Angeles wildfires, writing, “The human connection is not lost.
Shout out to the mom group that’s there in the highs and lows.”
Hilary Duff and Mandy Moore’s Bond Remains Strong
Meanwhile, Duff and Moore appear to have maintained their close friendship.
The longtime pals have spoken about the support they offer one another and even lived together temporarily when Moore lost her home in last year’s fires.
They were recently spotted sharing festive moments with their children during a Christmas lights outing.
Duff, with husband Matthew Koma, is raising four children: 13-year-old Luca Cruz Comrie (with ex-husband Mike Comrie), and daughters Banks Violet, 7, Mae James, 4, and Townes Meadow, 1.
The Response From the Mom Group
Tisdale’s essay didn’t go unnoticed by the former group.
Samii Ryan, a clothing designer linked to the circle, reposted a video of a man dramatically opening his front door while mouthing Megan Thee Stallion lyrics about self-confidence and ignoring haters.
Ryan captioned it “2026 mood,” sparking speculation that it was a subtle reply to Tisdale’s public comments.
The Bigger Question
As the social media posts and essays continue, fans are left asking: are mom groups truly supportive, or can they inadvertently create drama and exclusion?
The debate is ongoing, and the spotlight on this celebrity circle shows how even adult friendships can feel high-school-level complicated at times.
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