If you’ve ever found yourself twisting into knots trying to “fix” a man who just doesn’t deserve your love, then this one’s for you.
Because I’ve been there.
I know what it’s like to believe that if you just love harder, support more, and hold on tighter, the chaos will calm, and he’ll become the man you hoped for.
Spoiler: sometimes he won’t — and you’re the one who ends up lost.
The Endless Cycle of Drama You’ve Been Living
I once dated a guy whose life was full of chaos: pub fights, police chases, court dates, even jail sentences — plural.
I believed my love could change him. But it took years of therapy, interventions, and finally accepting the truth that he wasn’t going to change, while I did.
Watching you lately, Dee, I see the same tired resilience in your eyes.
Every time Conor McGregor, your fiancé and father of your four children, stirs up fresh scandal — whether it’s caught kissing a woman on a Florida beach or being accused of sending explicit photos by rapper Azealia Banks — you keep holding on, looking exhausted and almost robotic.
Conor’s Troubling Pattern and What It Means for You
You’ve stood by him through serious allegations, including a court ruling ordering him to pay damages for sexual assault, and whispers of other accusations.
You even posted that you both “dealt with these issues privately.” But Dee, this is not okay.
From public betrayals to allegations of harassment, the signs are clear: Conor repeatedly disrespects you — the woman who’s been by his side longest.
One mistake could be forgiven, but a pattern? That’s something else entirely.
This isn’t just dumb behavior — it’s hurtful and damaging.
Why You’ve Stayed and Why It’s Time to Let Go
I understand why you’ve stayed. It’s that awful mental trap called the “sunk cost fallacy” — thinking, “I’ve already invested so many years, I can’t give up now.”
But here’s the hard truth: staying just because you’ve invested 17 years wastes even more of your life.
You’re not holding onto love — you’re holding onto suffering disguised as loyalty.
And trust me, we see that loyalty, but we also pity it. Because he will never change.
You’ve proven your strength, your loyalty, and your beauty — just not for him.
Breaking the Cycle for Your Kids’ Sake
Maybe you stay for the kids, thinking it’s better for them.
But growing up in a toxic household scars more than you realize.
A therapist once told me that if you grew up watching your own mother tolerate disrespect, it becomes “normal” — and you lose the instinct to walk away.
Dee, the red flags are waving.
If you want your children to learn what healthy love looks like, it’s time to break the cycle.
Walking away is the bravest thing you can do — for you and for them.
Redirecting Your Energy Toward Yourself
You’re incredibly capable of nurturing and supporting.
Now, take that strength and pour it into yourself.
You’ve sacrificed so much; it’s time to reclaim your energy and focus on your happiness.
Whether that means writing a book, speaking out, or simply finding peace away from the spotlight, you deserve it.
You don’t need to follow examples like Coleen Rooney, who turned heartbreak into a messy public battle.
Channel your strength toward healing, not revenge.
Avoid Falling Into the Trap of Self-Blame or Cosmetic Fixes
Sometimes women try to fix the pain by changing their appearance, hoping that looking better will keep a cheating partner around.
I’ve been there, with a face full of Botox during my darkest days.
But trust me, it doesn’t work. Even the most beautiful are hurt by unfaithful partners.
The real power is in refusing to tolerate disrespect.
Therapy, self-love, and setting boundaries are what really heal.
Recognizing When Enough Is Enough
It’s common to feel confused when the person you love says one thing but acts another.
You might have convinced yourself it’s an open relationship or that “this is just who he is.”
But some lines should never be crossed — like public humiliations in front of cameras.
Your children are watching how you allow to be treated, and it teaches them what love is — or isn’t.
For their sake and yours, it’s time to say enough.
Taking That First Step Toward Freedom
Pack a bag. Call a lawyer. Start the process of reclaiming your life and dignity.
You’ve earned every penny if it comes to a settlement, and peace is waiting on the other side of this storm.
You are worth so much more than betrayal and public shame.
You Deserve Real Peace, Dee
This isn’t just about ending a relationship. It’s about reclaiming your power, your happiness, and setting an example for your children.
Real peace isn’t just a dream — it’s your right.
And it starts the moment you decide you deserve better.
With love and fierce hope,
Jana x
