When Meghan Markle and Prince Harry moved to the upscale community of Montecito, California, back in 2020, many imagined the couple would dive right into their new neighborhood life.
But it turns out, the reality is a bit more complicated — and not quite the close-knit community vibe some might expect.
An Elderly Neighbor’s Unseen Gesture
One story that popped up recently really highlights how distant Meghan Markle appears to some locals.
An elderly neighbor, a California local historian, reportedly tried to personally deliver a documentary he had made about the area to Meghan.
But according to reports, he never made it past the gate of their $14.7 million mansion.
This little incident, shared by local journalist Richard Mineards, paints a picture of Meghan’s careful and controlled public persona — one that doesn’t quite mesh with the casual, friendly Montecito spirit.
Meghan’s Controlled Image vs. Montecito’s Casual Community
Richard Mineards, who lives in Montecito and writes for the Montecito Journal, says Meghan keeps a tight hold on her image.
“She pays attention to every word, every gesture,” he explains.
“Around here, we value simple, down-to-earth interactions, even from famous people.
Oprah Winfrey shows up for charity events and mixes with locals.
Meghan doesn’t seem to play that community game.”
He adds that Meghan has “never really tried to fit in,” unlike her husband.
Harry’s Warmer Connection with Locals
On the flip side, Harry is described as more approachable and natural by comparison.
Mineards says Harry often smiles, shakes hands, and chats with neighbors in his unmistakable Windsor accent.
“We’ve seen him cycling in the hills, hanging out at an organic coffee shop, and strolling on the beach,” Mineards says.
“He’s less in control and more relaxed — you can tell he’s more at ease here, even while facing his personal struggles.”
Meghan’s Low Profile and the School Run Story
Meghan, meanwhile, remains mostly “invisible” around Montecito, according to neighbors.
She has opened up in interviews and a new podcast about her family life here, but her accounts sometimes invite gentle ribbing.
In one candid moment, Meghan described the school run with her children Archie and Lilibet as a monumental effort — something “akin to climbing Everest and curing cancer.”
Working parents found the description a bit over-the-top, especially since she has a nanny to help.
She also mentioned her nanny has been “amazing” for five years, stepping in when early meetings interfere with motherhood duties.
Meghan shared that juggling work and family life has often felt “overwhelming.”
Social Life and Friendships in Montecito
Despite her distant public image, Meghan told People magazine she has made some friends locally — stay-at-home moms and working women outside the spotlight.
She described these relationships as evolving from casual school run chats to girls’ nights out and Pilates classes together.
One mom even recalled Meghan attending a child’s birthday party, chatting casually with other parents about “mom stuff.”
Mixed Feelings from the Community
Still, many locals say Meghan isn’t often seen, and some describe her as aloof compared to Harry’s “jolly” demeanor.
Neighbors admit they rarely spot the couple, aside from Harry cycling with his security detail or walking their dog on the beach.
Questions have also been raised about their lifestyle in Montecito, which some see as “elitist” and separate from everyday community life.
Royal Commentators Weigh In on Their Community Role
Royal commentator Duncan Larcombe commented on their position in the local scene, pointing out that as parents, Meghan and Harry’s children interact with other kids at school and nursery.
He wonders if the couple intends to engage as “just another parent” in the community or continue keeping to themselves.
Harry’s Routine: Biking, Meditation, and Family Time
Last year, reports revealed Harry’s daily routine in Montecito.
He often cycles solo with a security convoy nearby, walks their dog on the beach, and practices daily meditation and workouts.
When not at his home office or with Meghan, he enjoys quiet moments in his garden.
Contrasting Reports on Harry’s Well-being
There are conflicting accounts of how Harry is coping emotionally.
Some close allies say he is “doing great,” while others describe him as “more isolated and angrier” since settling in California.
Meghan’s Small Circle and Celebrity Connections
Meghan seems to keep a smaller, loyal circle of friends, joining local groups like a mahjong club and chatting with fellow celebrity residents.
Yet, she remains quite private, rarely seen mingling openly in Montecito.
The Sussexes’ Occasional Outings and Criticism
Harry and Meghan do occasionally enjoy date nights at local spots like Lucky’s steakhouse or Italian restaurant Tre Lune, where menu prices reflect the area’s luxury lifestyle.
However, they’ve faced accusations of hypocrisy for maintaining an “elitist” lifestyle while promoting charity work and activism, as highlighted in a German documentary released late last year.
Public Criticism From Former Soldier in Documentary
The documentary “Harry: The Lost Prince” includes harsh criticism from Ben McBean, a veteran who lost limbs in Afghanistan and who flew home with Harry.
McBean called out Harry for complaining about family issues publicly, contrasting it with his own experience of loyalty and discretion.
Life Continues Behind the Gates in Montecito
In the end, Meghan and Harry’s life in Montecito remains a mix of public scrutiny and private moments, with neighbors, fans, and critics all watching from the outside.
Whether they fully integrate into the community or continue to keep their circle small, only time will tell.